Caroline, Sydney Side: June 2012

After an incredible trip to Thailand and Cambodia, I returned to Sydney with one week left in my year-long adventure of living in Australia. It was hard to believe that a full year had passed and it was time to head home. I admittedly had mixed feelings about it.

In many ways, I could not wait to live in my condo again with all my personal belongings and of course my dog, Fletcher. I was so excited to see my family, Patrick and friends. I couldn't wait for the normal everyday things - eating queso dip and drinking margaritas over catch-up's with the girls, walks to Starbucks with Inna, doggie date nights with Tammy/Ike, BourbonSteak dinners with P, road trips to Chesapeake and so much more....

In other ways, I was sad. The friends I made in Sydney are so special to me; those friends became family to me. We spent holidays together and shared both old and new traditions. Many of us were lonely at times and far from family and others were Aussie born and bred, but all of us were together and there for each other while experiencing cool new things. One of my favorite memories that really wraps it all up so well was TMac and Manders' Thanksgiving party when 30 people brought together that day all sat in a circle and spoke about what we were thankful for... the common theme was the experience of getting to know one another - and ourselves - in this far-away, strange, cool, unique land.

It was with a bit of reticence that I went into that last week. As I slowly packed up my apartment into 5 suitcases (which turned into 6 suitcases when I had to buy a new one -- which was inexpensive (NOT!) -- at the airport because two of my bags were over the weight limit), I made sure to spend quality time with my friends. We had dinners and happy hours, and we laughed and cried. There were antics and shenanigans as well as new memories made. I loved every second.

All of my Sydney-based worldly possessions in 5 suitcases...pre-airport on 27 February 2012

Two days before 'leaving on a jet plane'*, Tyler organized a boat cruise around Sydney Harbour for the gang. I was so touched not only by everyone coming but also by how special my friends made me feel. We had drinks, music via a special playlist by Nips and perfect weather. At one point, we were docked and swimming with the Harbour Bridge and Opera House behind us, music playing and beers in our hands as we swam in the cool and clear water. Everyone gathered back on the boat and "Sweet Caroline" by Neil Diamond played while we all sang and danced and laughed and cried (or at least I did). It was such a sweet farewell.

A gorgeous day on the Harbour (25 February 2012)

The crew

After the boat cruise, we wanted to keep the party going and enjoy the weather so we sat in Rose Bay Park. Kate introduced us to a Polish drinking game, which ended up being so fun but of course disasterous! Each person had to pour a shot of vodka and dedicate it to someone else, who then had to take the shot (however big it was!). And that cycle continued through at least a few bottles of vodka! We sat for hours, just talking and reminiscing, which I just adored.

I saw this recently and it nailed how I felt, especially towards the end of my time in Sydney:

With the lifelong freinds I made, I know they'll remind me of how I was. I felt loved for exactly who I am and want to be. To Tmac, Tyler, Dawn, Devin (aka "the bodyguard"), Carly, Manders, Muzza, Crowey, Sam, Niraj, Ben, Alysha, Pam, Kirsten, Nips, Graci, Christy, Leela, JD, Jen, Whitey, Bonner, McKenna, Karim, Damo, Georgie and so many more of you - thank you for making my Sydney adventure one of the very best years of my life.

xoxo.....

The six suitcases - and Patrick and Dad - upon landing home in Washington, DC

p.s. I plan to continue the blog with stories of my 'repatriation' to the US and future travels!

* Unlike in the song, I do know 'when I will be back again' to Sydney - for TMac and Manders' wedding in January!

* NOTE: This is a very long blog post. I couldn't help it. I wanted to capture for myself and all of you (!) the magnificent history and spectacle of the Angkor Wat and other temples.

When one googles the Seven Wonders of the World, a lot of lists pop up. There are natural wonders and man-made wonders as well as wonders from medieval times, modern times, Florida (!)....In chatting with friends who had visited Angkor Wat in Siem Reap, Cambodia, it was clear that any list of man-made ancient wonders should have this remarkable temple complex included. After visiting, I couldn't agree more. The juxtaposition of long-standing history (massive and intricate temples build BY HAND in the 12th century and still standing after centuries of neglect) and the recent past (destruction of an entire generation of innocent people by the Khmer Rouge, and the subsequent rebuilding of a nation's spirit) is truly incredible to witness.

Siem Reap is an up-and-coming charming little town located in the north of Cambodia. Until the early 1900's when the French arrived, it was nothing more than a tiny village. However, with the influence of the French, it became a cultural hub of Cambodia. Like all other cities in Cambodia during the Khmer Rouge regime, Siem Reap was evacuated in the mid 1970's and all citizens were forced to the countryside. Since regaining independence, the Cambodians have been rebuilding the city's bustling vibe and cultural charm (it has a lively French Quarter) and leveraging its close proximity (a few km) to the Angkor temples to remake itself into a top Asian tourist destination. It was delightful to spend a weekend there.

The best guide ever!

The main draw, of course, are the Angkor temples. A friend from DC recommended a gentleman named Sokkhoeun Bout to serve as our trusty guide for the day. For a mere US$30, Sokk guided Christian and me through the main temples we wanted to see and enchanted us with stories and facts about the temples' rich histories. The most amazing part was that Sokk spoke from a very personal view, having been separated from his parents at a very young age and forced into the Khmer army. As an educated man, his father was murdered by the Khmer; he didn't see his mother until a chance reuniting 12 years later. He was stationed in the Angkor temples as a child soldier and thus knows them like the back of his hand. Despite his painful personal history, Sokk could not be more kind, caring and joyful.

As a funny aside, he called toilets the "happy house". So whenever we needed a break, which was often given how much water we were drinking to stay hydrated in the summer heat, we asked for a "happy house". So charming.

Anyhoo, we laid out our plan of attack for the day and then set out to be awed and inspired. Here's a bit of what we learned and experienced:

Stop 1: Angkor Wat

Built in the early part of the 12th century, it's known as the 'city temple'. Angkor Wat was commissioned by the Hindu king Suryavarman II to serve as a dedication to Vishna and ultimately as his tomb. (Interestingly, in the late 13th century, Angkor switched to Buddhist use and still is today.) According to Sokk, the 2 square km city-temple complex took 40 years to build and enlisted 385,635 people, 40,000 elephants and 24,000 boats which carried extremely large sandstones from a quarry located 50 km away. The fact that the structures and surrounding moat were built with no modern equipment is remarkable. Even more so that no bindings were used between the stones in building the actual temples!

Angkor Wat

The beautiful ruins of Angkor Wat

At one time, there were 1000 temples in the complex - there are now 72. And for unknown reasons, the 65m high middle tower faces west which is unlike all other Hindu structures...facing east is thought to signify victory and the dawning of a new day. Conversely, facing west signifies loss and death; this is why historians suspect it was intended to be the king's tomb. The steep climb to the middle tower is comprised of 37 steps, which was thought to be the ascent into the 3rd level of heaven. I was certainly breathless after climbing them! The middle tower of the main complex sits in the center of several concentric circles, each populated with rooms, hallways and courtyards.

Me inside the innermost courtyard of Angkor Wat

As you can imagine, with how many people worked to build and then operate the 'city center', the ancient class system was alive and well. Three classes of people lived and worked in the complex, with only the upper-class being allowed into the center and thus close to the Terrace of the Thousand Buddhas. As westerners rediscovered the temples, the heads of the Buddhas and jewels that adorned them were stolen; indeed, many of the heads are thought to be in European museums such as the Louvre and there is a movement under foot to return these relics to their Cambodian homes. Along the outer ring of the middle tower are bas-relief galleries; these wall carvings tell famous Hindu stories of war and how people traveled to the 37 layers of heaven or 32 levels of hell. The bas-reliefs are intricate and well-preserved, particularly for being carved in the 12th century! They are over 1km in length!!

headless Buddhas

intricate carvings

A bas-relief

As we walked through the temple grounds, we encountered young monks walking the grounds in their brightly colored orange robes and small grey monkeys hoping for a nibble or snack from an unsuspecting tourist. But one of the most special parts of exploring this incredible complex was coming across a blind monk who was sitting and chanting amongst Buddhas with incense burning and sunlight streaming in around him. I gave a US$1 donation for a red prayer bracelet that the monk tied to my wrist while chanting and smiling; once tied, he blew on the inside of my wrist to bless the bracelet and me for good tidings and travels. I haven't removed it since.

The blind monk

Stop 2: Anghor Thom
Anghor Thom translates to the "great city" in Khmer, and served as the last and one of the most enduring capitals in Cambodia. There are two main draws to Anghor Thom - the Bayon Temple and the bridge.

Bayon Temple was a state temple built between 1116-1281 from a red-colored soil called laterite that was dried and carved into large bricks. The Bayon architectural style is known for the red color and its grandness in scale. Twenty years before it was completed, it was transitioned to be the first Buddhist temple in the region and represents the intersection between heaven and earth. There were 54 towers to symbolize the 54 Khmer provinces but only 37 of the towers remain today. The temples are most famous for the (massive) 4 smiling faces carved into them which are meant to represent compassion, sympathy, charity, and equality.

The faces of Angkor Thom

After leaving the temple, we rode along a road filled with gray monkeys under massive shade trees until we reached a large gate and bridge. The gate served as the entrance to the complex, and parts of the surrounding walls remain today. The bridge was definitely a highlight -- it stretches across what was a massive moat (100 m wide!) and is lined with 54 statues of demons on one side and 54 statues of gods on the other. The bridge is a monumental representation of a famous Hindu myth called the Churning of the Ocean of Milk. Needless to say, we took tons of pictures here!

One of the Demons

The Gods and Me

Stop 3: Banteay Srei
At each stop, I had a new "favorite" as each had really interesting and unique characteristics. But I must say, Banteay Srei, which means 'citadel of the women', was a true delight. We had to pay our driver an extra US $10 to drive the extra few kilometers to it, and I am so happy we did. Banteay Srei is known for its sheer beauty, for it is constructed of a pink sandstone and has truly intricate carvings covering the surfaces. Construction began in 967 AD upon commission by a Brahman (priest) as a dedication to the Hindu god, Shiva. What was so cool was that the buildings appeared almost miniature in size compared to the large scale of the other temples we had seen thus far. The carvings were incredibly detailed and well preserved especially considering that the temple lay undiscovered without maintenance for many centuries, potentially from the 14th century until 1914. There are small sanctuaries with statues of Hindu gods throughout as well as small libraries. What a charming and beautiful spot!

Amazing carvings considering they are over 1000 years old!

I loved the beauty of these buildings

Stop 4: Pre Rup (The Royal Crematorium)

On the way to our last stop of the day, we buzzed by Pre Rup long enough to take a few photos but did not go in. There are crematorium buildings throughout Cambodia, but this one (built starting in 941 AD) is thought to have been built by the king Rajendravarman II to serve as a royal crematorium. We had an interesting conversation here about whether Cambodians tend to be buried or cremated; Sokk said it's about 50/50.

Stop 5: Ta Prohm
Now, I have never seen the film "Tomb Raider" but if you have, you'd instantly recognize this temple complex. Surrounded by jungle, Ta Prohm has largely been 'preserved' (i.e., without restoration) as it was found when rediscovered in the early 1900's. There are MASSIVE trees growing in and through the main temples. Originally built in 1186, Ta Prohm was a Buddhist temple known as Rajavihara or "monastery of the king" as a dedication to the king's mother. What's fascinating are inscriptions that have been found that detail the working nature of the complex....Close to 12,500 people were required to live and worship in temple. To support and service that community, there were 3,000 villages housing 80,000 people within the temple grounds.

Beautiful ruins

The trees and roots that have grown throughout the temples are spectacular. I have never seen anything quite like it. The roots were hundreds of meters long and many were almost a meter in width! There was an air of mystery and sadness as we traversed through the temples, but also of beauty and peacefulness as well. To see an ancient man-made structure overcome with the forces of nature was certainly something I will never forget.